Ok, today I was talking to my future Girlfriend, and she said I believe what my friends tell me too much. And I don't think it is true. There are sometimes when my friends tell me things, and I don't talk to her about it, but most of the time, when I hear something about her, I talk to her about it first. And trust me if I believed everything I heard about her, then I wouldn't even be talking to her.
Technically, I think believing my friends, would be just ignoring her, and not talking about it (which I did do once, but we solved the problem), but I think if I talk to her about it, instead, then it is not believing them. I think talking to her, to see if it's true or not, isn't believing my friends, because I have decided to talk to her about it, and if I don't talk to her about it, I would be paranoid, and have it on my mind for a long time, which can eventually turn into believing my friends.
Now, say your friends told you that they saw your girlfriend/boyfriend (or a person that you are trying to be with) kissing someone else. Would you instantly believe them, and not talk to your GF/BF, or would you talk to them about it, because you don't want to get hurt?
I believe that talking to the person about it does not mean you believe your friend, it just means you want to talk about it with them, instead of getting played, or hurt in the long run.
Tell me what your opinion on this subject is.... |
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...What do you mean "future" girlfriend? |
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Pretty private stuff you got here...why not talk about it in MM instead? |
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We are talking, like we might go out |
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Oh, and if your friends told you that, you need to talk about it. Better to get your feelings hurt than look the fool while your boyfriend/girlfriend is out there macking on other people. Approach it honestly and openly, don't get upset or he/she won't talk about it.
And if it turns out your friends were lying, then you need new friends. |
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Ya if its your true sweet heart then you should know if she would do that but if shes just your girlfriend then it is possible that she did. And if these are your best friends, I dont know why they woudld lie. |
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Sylvester, its not to private I have it on Myspace as well, I want to know if I am wrong in this situation, or not. |
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Exactly, thanks Marietta, finally someone agrees with me. |
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I say you need to send in a bosnian spy. I hear Rourkeyrourke is for hire! |
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Rourkey twirls his mustache and nods approvingly. |
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my opinion (even though i don't know you) is that you should talk to her no point on believing hear say its best to talk to your friend and her at the same time with them together and if that doesn't work just do some out sourcing talk to people shes known before friends, old boyfriends, etc. and ask about how she was before and if its natural to hear or if she has done it before because talking to her alone could easily turn into drama that isn't worth it and even if she doesn't want to be with you after that situation its best to get it off your chest i know from experience of this same kind of situation. just my opinion :/ |
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dynamo my dear friend talk to her first because she is the one that will tell the truth if she really is in love with you |
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I say you should keep talking to her but watch her. I was liking this girl and we used to always talk in class. I noticed she always rushed out of class when the bell rang and I wondered why. I never knew because I was always last to leave and she was always first. One day I finally saw where she was rushing to. she would rush to another guy and be all lovey dovey with him. A week later my pal told me what he saw and I told him I knew already. I got over her by starting conversations with another girl. If you watch her and have a case like mine, then you should just move on to another love interest, no use of wasting your time with a taken somebody |
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I hate to see someone in a situation as I was once in. But now, everything has went downfall for me. I lost a girl I was truly in love with, over some stuff that her friend caused, but won't admit her friend caused. It sucks. |
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Do your friends have anything to gain by lying about it? If not, why would they lie? What would be their motivation?
I'm an old cat who has been around a lot. Any time I've heard some hussy (or a boyfriend of one of my female friends) say "don't believe what you hear", you should believe what you hear. |
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