Sorrority has been out of the streets lately, and decided right now would be a good time to get back in the streets. Her voice is loud enought that she does not need a bull horn or to get on top of anything to have people hear her. Projecting her voice, Sorrority says

Well hello everyone? How is going? I have come here today to talk about a topic, that to my knowledge has not been touched on. As most of you know, having a special someone to share all your fortune with can be an advantage, but also a disadvantage. What are everyone's view on that? Do you think that we joined the life of Mafia to just make money and get respect, and thats it! Or did we also come to try to find that special someone. I'm sure we all could name a couple of people off the top of our heads, who are on both sides of the spectrum. Do you think that it is a distraction, or is it just another perk to being in the Mafia life? I'm interested to see what you guys will say because I have met people who are very passionate about their stand. Well, what do ya think?

Sorrority stands and waits to see what people have to say.

well, Joinin this world just to find a special person is a bit lame .. ( if its your main goal )

So are you saying that it's a distraction?

I believe finding that special someone becomes part of the game for some people.

It's diferent for every single one of us.

But my question is, do you think "finding" that "someone" is a distraction?

"Finding that special someone" in my eyes is not a distraction as long as you focus on your main goal.  Unless that is your main goal then like Fabrizo said LAME

Do you think that we joined the life of Mafia to just make money and get respect, and thats it! Or did we also come to try to find that special someone.

this is your question...as for its bein distaction ..eh , yea maby  a bit .. but more , its a stupidity and for losers .. but i repeat , if only its the main goal..we cant know what future brings somehow .. if you understand what im tryin to say :)

Honestly when I started playing again I never thought I would meet the woman of my dreams here. But I did and now I couldn't imagine a day going by without seeing her smiling face here to greet me. And I don't believe finding the special someone for you is a distraction I think it is a great undertaking every mobster should try one day, I know it has made me the happiest guy around.

For me, by no means is or was my goal to find someone special. But in this world of ours, there are different ways to meet people or make a connection. If it works for you, with that goal in mind, then congratulations.
I have always preferred the more traditional methods of "finding that special someone". But in this day and age the options/places are endless.
As far as finding a relationship in the game distraction in the game, I could see how it could happen. We are all trying to become the best gangster we can for our families, and if we have to start worrying about spending time with our special someone or you let your feelings for that person interfere with your decisions, with this life, it could very well be detrimental. That being said I can see Rover's side of it also, finding someone could be a further draw to the life also, and could bring further joy to the life indeed.

We came here in this world to gain respect and  do business. As we go along we understand how this world of ours works. We certainly do not go here to look for partners (but im not sure if this is 100%). But if circumstances are different and when that special feeling comes along probably then, but it musnt hinder on our goals.

excatly right mikhaela. We came here just do go thur the ranks. Unless you want someone in your way, that's your proablem.

I'm sure that everyone here in our world wants to gain ranks, but finding that special someone could come along.  If it happens, no you're no loser, and its not stupid.  We all have different opinions to either go only for business or even find great friends and have relationships.  Really, you have nothing to lose here.

I would like to touch the special someones part first. As most know I do have a special someone that I spend almost everyday with and I love her to death.SorroritySister, you are correct about having advantages an disadvantages. This does arise when we talk at nights. I explained to her before that if my family needs me then I'm sorry, but I'm not going to disobey my crew leader. I did comeback to these shores to spend more time with her, but I also came back because of LilWayne and Birdman. I have known these two fine gentlemen for a while now and they found me down in dark alley down on my luck. They both took me in and now I'm back on my feet. Now, the money and respect part of this subject. I was always told you do what you got to do to make money. If you have steal,lie,cheat, and kill just to earn a few bucks then that's what I did to earn whatever amount of cash I have on me. Respect is something that must be earned over time, but unfortunately some people think it should be given to who there past ancestors were. I will admit my ancestors were not perfect, but I don't think I should get respect just because I had a few ancestors that did a few good things here and there.

Very correct Sir Van_wilder, family do come first, if one meets their better half , the two must point it out to the other where they really stand, and i do think they must understand that our lives here are in constant calling for the jobs are family will give to us.

I won't be finding anyone from my community over here :(

i think somefriends here misunderstood my words , i never said that ''findin someone special and startin a new relationship in here '' means your loser.. ofcourse it may come along ..what im sayin is ; if you play a mafiagame just to find someone special , im sorry but your so loser and desperate...fair enough

Seems to me that this place thrives on business and hard work anyway, so if you knew what you were looking for you wouldn't look for a partner here. Also, If you become distracted by your relationship then it seems to me that your relationship is seriously questionable and you must put priorities in place before moving on.

Its all about the individual person, and the strength of the relationship that comes about... In that sense it must be strong to thrive in this thing of ours.

Let me put a close to this topic.  People don't join this life for love or money.  They join for the power and the fame.  ;)  Maybe.  Maybe not.  Who knows why people join the life.  I don't even know why I joined the life.  It certainly wasn't for the money.  I have to give all that to my boss.  And love?  My boss takes all that too.  Hmmm.  I guess I joined for the fun.  I have so much fun meeting people and coming to these streets, and working for a family that appreciates my efforts.  Albeit, my efforts haven't been that strong lately.  

Did that confuse you enough?  Good.  Then I'm done.  I'm not sure it matters WHY you joined, but what you do and how you live once you have joined. 

I had no idea folks took it so seriously.

Merci prefers a love interest, but as far as that carrying over into real life? Not even a little bit; I'm quite happy in that regard. I'm an incurable flirt, though...men, women...it's just the way I am. After reading this thread, though, maybe I need to can it :/

And as far as my character choosing between family and a love interest...I don't have an answer. I'd like to say family; my leanings (excuse me, MERCI'S leanings) have been that way so far, but who knows. It may come down to one of those seat-of-the-pants decisions where you ask yourself...who has your character's best interest at heart?

no its definetaly not just a distraction the mafia life is much easier if you have a speacial person to share it with power money and respect will come if you work hard but its hard to do it on your own