It seems to me that the opinion on this matter is very much the same from most points of view. That money earned is for the family and not for selfish gain. It appears though that the amounts or what money is spent on though could be the true basis of concern. As long as you put your family first is your money truly yours to spend in an fashion you choose? or is how you spend it dependent upon what your family wants you to spend it on. So therefore is any money in your bank account truly yours?